So I think I'm going to give Aurora a try.
Ptyxis seems like it would make using toolbox/distroboxes convenient. One thing I'm iffy about is possibly having to layer Prometheus node_exporter. The only way to run it in a container that is able to read the right system information would be to run podman as root. But most things that I run locally should be able to run just as well and seamlessly in rootless containers. These include ntfy, Grafana, Prometheus. Podman Desktop would make this easy.
The defaults listed on this page seem great. Tailscale, Flathub out of the box. The Aurora DX developer mode seems pretty interesting.
https://docs.getaurora.dev/