"When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear."

~Thomas Sowell

Only answer this poll if you're also #ActuallyAutistic - please refrain from answering if you're not autistic - thank-you.

Do you always know when someone isn't being completely truthful with you & have you experienced gaslighting from the ones that you knew weren't being fully honest?

I'm new here. Here's my #introduction.

My name is Mim; I live in a tiny apartment in a tiny village amongst the fields and farms of rural #Nebraska.

I love sewing, drawing, playing the piano, baking, and crafting. I'm doing the #OdinProject with my daughter to refresh and relearn web development, the newest challenge in my life.

I believe in #manners, #creativity, #honesty, #positivity, #humor, #kindness, and #imagination.

I look forward to meeting you!

#CalicoCritterCottages
#GlutenFreeBaking
#SweetTea
#Gardening
#HandSewing
#ThreeGoodThings
#HopePunk

A quotation from Emerson

Every man takes care that his neighbor shall not cheat him. But a day comes when he begins to care that he do not cheat his neighbor. Then all goes well. He has changed his market cart for a chariot of the sun.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882) American essayist, lecturer, poet
Essay (1860), “Worship,” The Conduct of Life, ch. 6

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Have I met you before? Here are three ways to minimize embarrassment when meeting people (including being honest about it).

https://www.conferencesthatwork.com/index.php/personal-effectiveness/2018/08/have-i-met-them-before-three-ways-to-minimize-embarrassment-when-meeting-people

#PersonalEffectiveness ##memory #embarrassment #honesty #RememberingNames

Honesty.

It's that simple. Try to be honest. In what you think, in what you say. Say it as it is.

Be honest. Nothing is harder. This is the battle.

(What you do
in private, what you do in public, that's annother question.)

Accept your mistakes, explain how they came about. Learn.

Don't let cliches or AI speak on your behalf. (Aren't they the same?)

Augustin Marlorat du Pasquier, French Reformer, says Christ will focus on deeds of love on the last day (Matthew 25). Marlorat says charity is a token by which we declare ourselves to worship God.

Was told in youth it was Marxism to say this passage was about feeding hungry people. But this idea is all over the Reformation, as I soon shall prove by inductive reasoning.

How can you declare yourself to worship God?

Seven of Swords: What Does The Seven of Swords Mean?

When the Seven of Swords appears in a Tarot reading, it’s time to reflect on honesty, strategy, and the consequences of your actions. The Seven of Swords is a card of deception, cunning, and the need to tread carefully. Depicted as a figure sneaking away with five swords while two remain stuck in the ground, this card represents the tension between… https://tarotsway.com/2025/04/09/seven-of-swords/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon #Tarot #SevenOfSwords #TarotReading #SpiritualGuidance #Honesty

#honesty : dignity; propriety

- French: honnêteté

- German: die Ehrlichkeit

- Italian: onestà

- Portuguese: honestidade

- Spanish: honestidad/honestamente

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“Israeli media more honest than UK equivalent over Israel’s genocide, war crimes”

by Skwawkbox @skwawkbox

@BBC5Live
@BBCRadio4
@guardian @Independent @thetimes

“UK ‘mainstream’ media’s collusion in government’s collaboration in Israel’s extermination of Palestinians is appalling but not surprising”

https://skwawkbox.org/2025/04/01/israeli-media-more-honest-than-uk-equivalent-over-israels-genocide-war-crimes/

Narcissists are more honest after being exposed to explanations of different rationalizations of unethical behavior (assuming everybody does it, blaming others, minimizing harm, or using euphemistic language) and how using these rationalizations can adversely affect one's standing.

Summary: https://www.psypost.org/scientists-discover-how-to-psychologically-inoculate-narcissists-against-dishonesty/

Original paper (not open access): https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/01461672241276562

Out and About.. Today's Bike Ride

Canon R7 Mirrorless - Canon EF-S 18-135mm Lens

#Photo #Photography #Flowers #Honesty # JapaneseCherry #Moss #Turtle #Closeup #MILC #Mirrorless #CanonR7 #GiMP

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/husseinhallak_they-played-you-for-a-fool-no-ones-going-activity-7311120438212837376-iTAD?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_ios&rcm=ACoAAADQV_oBzPiYVG9IAnMiCIycm4D0TnjOR38

Read this, if nothing else this week.

I use 3 guidleines in my communication (mainly with NTs, but with sane people too),

#Honesty, #Courtesy, and #Clarity.

Do you have guidelines that you use/prefer?

#AskingAutistics
#ActuallyAutistic
#ADHD
#AskingADHD
#AuDHD

#Autists (and others too ) might find this consideration of #honesty interesting...

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic
#ADHD #AuDHD

https://mas.to/@PatternChaser/114234417230736799

"Dishonesty isn’t just about clear-cut lies. These are just the tip of the iceberg. Just as dangerous are subtle twists, misdirections of attention, biased selection of evidence, loopholes, & failing to call out deceitful colleagues."

#ecocide #honesty

https://theconversation.com/to-address-the-environmental-polycrisis-the-first-step-is-to-demand-more-honesty-251742

Switzerland and Trust

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A few days ago I was waiting for friends to catch a train to go on a hike and I forgot to start easyride before the start of the train journey. As soon as I realised I started the app but when I arrived one stop away it was ignored. If the friends had been on time I would have started the tracking sooner.

To be clear it's the SBB app that chose not to charge me for the journey I forgot to start tracking from the start. If it had looked at the time I started moving, and the train that started at the same time, then it could have extrapolated the ride I had tried to pay for.

On the same day I parked the car in the Park and Rail parking and paid for the entire day, despite staying for a few hours, so what I did not pay on the train journey was compensated for. The RTS has an article on the topic of people not paying.

It flows the other way too. Months ago I took a train from Point A to Point B, and then drove to Point C before I realised that I had forgotten to stop easyride tracking so I sent a message to the app maker to let them know of that error. As I was within a tarif zone it made no difference, other than statistical for them.

This weekend I caught the train for a single stop and this time I made sure to start tracking the journey before the train arrived, and I stopped tracking when I started hiking. I didn't make that mistake twice.

Switzerland is a nation where trust is part of life. Since childhood I have seen newspaper boxes where you're trusted to put the right change to get self-service newspapers. In recent years you can get Apple juice, apples, grapes, and more from self-service shops. You can even get coffee, tea and more. It's all based on the ideal that people are honest and trustworthy.

When you go to Décathlon, coop and Migros, to name a few you're trusted to self-checkout without mistakes and this is great. It means that you can enter a shop, get what you want, scan it, go, pay, and leave, without any need for conversation.

Occasionally there is a spot check so they could detect if you make mistakes. If you make too many, trust declines.

If you know at what time you're travelling you can buy a "billet dégriffé" for a specific train at a specific time on a specific route. The demi tarif also pays for itself within a few train journeys. There is no valid reason for not paying for a train journey.

With trust we can shop for food, sporting items, and catch trains without being checked for tickets. With trust we can board a bus or train without having to pass by a controller. Without trust we have to queue, and wait for others to be served before we are. I like that we are trusted to be honest.

A quotation from Addison

A man must be excessively stupid, as well as uncharitable, who believes that there is no virtue but on his own side, and that there are not men as honest as himself who may differ from him in political principles.

Joseph Addison (1672-1719) English essayist, poet, statesman
Essay (1711-12-08), The Spectator, No. 243

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