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#Germany’s #FarRight Wants to Trap the #Left in Culture Wars

Well, it seems that for the Jacobin, in order to prevent the #extremeright to rise to power in Germany, all it has to do is give up on the rights of all power #minorities, including women... in oder words, #DieLinke should jump right into the #CulturalWar that the #AfD has started and choose the #dominant side in the name #ClassPolitic! such classic lame delusional strategy !

jacobin.com/2025/07/germany-af via @wallabag

Get yourself a submissive who's a carpenter..

I was having a bit of a complain to him yesterday that our shower has started losing its silicone sealing and water is starting to run out between the bottom of the shower screen and the tile flooring, and how much I hate having to approach the real estate for repairs like that because it is always a risk that the owners will decide to just sell because they are annoyed with organising repairs (especially with the housing market being so inflated atm).

He popped past this morning to have his cock cage locked up for the day, and took a look at it - "yeah, that'll take me about an hour to fix for you, if you'll let me?"

Let you? Baby, I'll have you do it naked while I watch with a crop in my hand. Let's make this fun for everyone involved..

#kink#bdsm#Ds

Dear fellow kinksters,

Since I am still in a learning phase as a dominant and exploring all possibilities, I'm looking for good resources out there. I've already found some interesting websites.

I am curious if there's perhaps a Podcast series or YouTube channel that focuses on the basics and dynamics of #BDSM play you could recommend?

I snuck a pair of my pretty french knickers into Greg's bag when he was leaving, with the idea that he could use them to edge while I watched once he was back home in the UK.

Well, during our video call yesterday he disappeared for a minute and came back actually wearing them.. and wew boi did I learn pretty fucking quickly that I have a new kink 😆

(also, gods fucking bless men who will try something fun and new just because they think you might enjoy it instead of getting caught up in toxic masculinity)

I was going to post something the other day about how I had a submissive until about 10 months ago, when we stopped our dynamic.

He is married and his wife had asked him to stop his kink stuff for a time to refocus his energy and time in his marriage and family. He and I had talked when we first started with our thing, and we're very open about how his relationship with his family, and my relationship with Greg, were our priorities and that was how we wanted it. I don't usually do hierarchical relationships, but this suited everyone involved and was a deliberate decision... whereas my issue with hierarchy is that it's often not through deliberate choice, but is just followed because that's "the way it's meant to be".

For some reason the last couple of weeks I'd started thinking about him a fair bit. I had a couple of dreams that he was in, and when I sat down and had a real think about why I was thinking about him I realised it was because I was missing him.

Then, yesterday.. out of the blue, he messaged me on Fetlife. He's reactivated his account, we're chatting again. Things with his wife and family are great and they've agreed that he can go explore his kink side again.

Sometimes the universe is an interesting place.

But if, for example, I write that I have more trouble finding a #male partner than a #female partner, because I'm quite #dominant, most people will label me as a #lesbian, some probably as a 'dike'.

Notice that I didn't say I prefer women, or anything about sex orientation. It's just people interpreting my words according their experiences and #prejudices.

4/n

Honestly, as far as kinksters go.. Swingers have to be some of the most whingey little babies I've ever met.

I'm constantly getting messages from swingers complaining that there are no events for them to attend, and when I point out that there are monthly munches they are welcome to attend they complain that it's a kink munch.

Dude, it's Bathurst - the selection pool is small.

Firstly, swinging is a kink. Secondly, if you're not interested in going to the event and you're not bothered to start your own, don't message a complete stranger and about something not being tailor made for you and your dick.

This is exactly why I stopped organising.

#kink#bdsm#Ds

I often get messaged on Fetlife by people I don't know asking to meet up with them to play.

I don't tend to do this anymore because of covid, so I'll simply respond "sorry, I don't meet up with strangers".

Women and queers tend to message back with something akin to "I totally understand, have a great week!"

Men almost always message back asking how to "not be a stranger", or they start arguing with me that they aren't a stranger because we're chatting/I know their name/we both live in Bathurst etc..

But it's like... why are you, a grown adult, unsure how to not be a stranger to someone? Like is the concept of learning about and becoming friends with another person that much of an alien idea to you?

Also, I'm not a vending machine you pay friendship into until I fuck you - and I get the irony of this, seeing as I often fuck my friends.

[fr] L’Autorité de la #concurrence (#antitrust) sanctionne #Apple d’une amende de 150 M euros, pour avoir ... abusé de sa position dominante ...

... l’objectif poursuivi par ... #ATT [App Tracking Transparency] n’est pas critiquable ... modalités ... ne sont ni nécessaires ni proportionnées ...

... une multiplication des fenêtres de recueil de #consentement compliquant excessivement ...

autoritedelaconcurrence.fr/fr/

Autorité de la concurrence · Ciblage publicitaire : l’Autorité de la concurrence prononce une sanction de 150 000 000 euros à l’encontre d’Apple en raison de la mise en œuvre du dispositif App Tracking Transparency (« ATT »)

It's interesting how it's always the men with the "LordMasterDivineDomlyGod" names who make declarations of how sadism/masochism works for everyone*, and when you question what they've said they decide you're the one being stubborn and ignorant?

Like, my guy.. my little guy, it's ok that other people experience things in different ways to you. It's really ok.

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

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* brought to you by the ever pervasive bullshit idea that sadists are naturally dominant and masochists are naturally submissive, because sadism is active and dynamic, but masochism is passive and receptive.

Him:
I'm in security. I'm a consultant.

Me:
OK, well I don't play with anyone who is a cop or works cop-adjacent, like in security companies.

Him:
Umm well actually it's finance security. I'm not a security guard

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1. You said security, my guy.
2. That's not really any better.
3. Still not interested.

#kink#bdsm#Ds

I run a local kink group on Facebook, and in November called someone in about being a chaser.. they decided to leave instead of engaging with the conversation about how chasing and the fetishisation of trans bodies is actually transphobia. After they left I attached a ban to their account so they couldn't rejoin and start shit because I had a feeling...

They've just tracked me down on Fetlife - 5 months later - and started drama in multiple groups there about it ("you banned me for no reason!"), posting in groups I'm in and commenting on threads I've posted in.

...but I made a mistake for banning them? 🤔

#kink#bdsm#Ds