So, Discord is rather trash with their whole privacy thing. https://spyware.neocities.org/articles/discord.html
But is there a real easy solution that doesnt require a beefy backend to host? There is Riot/Synapse but the backend is very lacking and stores everything without any way to delete it. XMPP is a nice alternative backend wise, but has no good frontend on the windows side i can give to my windows only friends.
Anyone got a smart solution to this? Trying to get off discord.