@tariquesani How do one deal with anger?
@Vishsai Anger is a strong emotion needs to be channelized in right direction. Like some engry which you can channelize to do something productive. It has tremendous strength if we see it in that way. Other option is to find ways to reduce it so that it doesn't harm you pyscologically. Meditation helps. @musafir @tariquesani
@Poonamsharma Do agree. Have done things productively because I was angry.
But when anger makes you dysfunctional it's a whole different story. One big challenge is the lack of control when it happens.
So after a decade of going through that realised that finding moments before the anger is where the control lies.
Then it became of accepting that and staying away from people so if doesn't get an opportunity to go to the next step.
@Vishsai I don't have anger issues but yes I have had short temperament problem. Now its a lot better because I focused on the cause of my short tempe,understood the issues related to that,realised its not worth my energy, its harming me at great extent and I need to deal with it asap. When you want to make yourself a better and peaceful person, you find ways out to do it. @musafir @tariquesani
Yeah have learned to let go. My main problem was identifying the source of it also.
Found some to be childhood trauma, some due to over imagination of a situation and others due to plain misunderstanding. Then there were situations which made me angry which was the right. But even that anger started consuming me.
Took a lot of time to understand and let go and yet only when faced with a situation am I truly understanding how much I have let go.
@Vishsai Dealing with the situation with calmness and letting go is the way. It will take time and effort and sometimes you might even fail but take a deep breath, make yourself realise that I need to improve for myself. Other people might be at wrong end but I need to be calm and handle the situation with atmost dignity and maturity. And when the situation is not in my hand then I will let it go because life is not fair and acceptance is the key. @musafir @tariquesani
We get angry when
1) A rule we have is broken
2) A goal we have is blocked
3) Our self esteem is threatened
Which one or combination is happening?
Also, not all anger is bad or unhealthy. Is the anger making you dysfunctional? If no then don’t fix it. Accept it.
The anger does make me dysfunctional. All 3 would the answer.
@Vishsai so what is it that is causing you to be angry?
@tariquesani totally used to visualizing the thwack between the legs as the behind leg slip and the person trips..scary!
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