BUT.... I'd say #matrix is definitely a stronger option long-term than #xmpp . I love using it. And I just have an account on matrix.org 's main server, but you can use #e2ee on your chats and rooms as desired... so even if you aren't hosting it yourself, nobody but you on a verified login instance could access those chats.
XMPP does both private conversations and group chats well, while Matrix focuses on being a "modern" alternative to IRC. I have a lot of opinions about Matrix, but let's not go there now. :)
I've been using XMPP since it was still Jabber and I never stopped using it. It's simply the option that sucks the least. :)
XMPP is good old XMPP still.
You are only missing out on alternatives, not any great advantages. Signal is better than the majority of other options and moving mountains to get into Matrix or get them all in XMPP is more expensive in time and effort than it pays out.
> so nothing has really changed since the jabber days?
The technology has matured a lot. Nowadays we have message carbons #XEP0280 so you can jump from device to device mid-chat and server-side message archiving #XEP0313 so it's like moving from #POP3 to #IMAP. Also, file transfers work reliably thanks to #XEP0363 and a bunch of other goodies. It's an exciting beast indeed.
There's audio/video calls too.
I can't / won't talk about specifics, but think adding firstname.lastname@example.org and getting a feed of everything that happens there (entering your choice of city and category, e.g. email@example.com).
@0 @nsartor @hund @wholesomedonut for self hosting I am currently leaning towards Matrix for two reasons: 1) I already use matrix and have client installed 2) I need reliable notifications on IOS and I know element/riot does that well whereas I have heard mixed opinions on the clients available for #ios for #XMPP - someone correct me if I am wrong about item 2 😃
By the same token, matrix seems to be a federated, eventually consistent data store that somehow got repurposed for group chat.
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