I got out of this habit in a hilarious way:
I learned a favorite visual novel character of mine dislikes conflict. Before I participate in something that will cause more chaos than peace, I ask myself "Well, what would that character think of me?"
(The character is Baxter Ward from Our Life: Beginnings and Always)
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