Apparently, Google decided that an sqlite database is just too confusing for regular people, so they hide the backup. It also doesn't count towards your GDrive limit, so they don't show the space it takes up, either. There's just *no* indication that it's there.
(Relatedly: it looks like I'll be pulling down the message DB as a raw SQLite db and working with it that way. https://medium.com/@1522933668924/extracting-whatsapp-messages-from-backups-with-code-examples-49186de94ab4 I don't suppose any of y'all have had to do that before and have tips, do you?)
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