For about a month now, I've changed my Steam username to include "(she/her kplzthx)" at the end, and continued to play Team Fortress 2 like normal. The idea was that, if someone was going to talk to me, at least some of these people would be nice and use she/her instead of he/him, as seems to be the default for 99.9% of online game communities.

The results were... a little different (big shocker, I know)

The people who used the pronouns the way I intended were fewer than five. About the same amount used he/him, and most just ended up saying my name directly.

That's that for people who would've normally talked to me. Of course, there turned out to be many who would normally never say a word, but who were determined to be toxic assholes to a stranger.

Ignoring the obvious slurs and insults (boy, there were many of them), I've had some transphobic copypastas spammed at me in chat, and people butting in with derogatory comments into my conversations with other, sane people.

Then, there were people who went beyond insults and actually hunted me down, targeted me for the sole purpose of taunting and/or throwing insults in chat after a kill.


I've also been targeted by several people with cheats. Yes indeed, people were so upset by a simple request that I've had the long end of an aimbotter's sniper rifle aimed at me (and ONLY at me) on more than one occasion.

This isn't about transphobia. No matter who the instigator and the target are, this is just pathetic. Imagine being so fucking loathsome so as to go to these lengths and ruin the game for others simply because of their nickname.

Sorry to say this but isn't the use of that in your nick literally asking for trouble? no one exactly bothers or even cares what you are unless you basically shove it (sorry if Im offensive but i don't know how to express this)

@New001 Technically it is asking for trouble, yes. The thing is that it's only asking for trouble because weird people feel the need to make trouble over something that really shouldn't matter to them.

When girls play games and use voice chat, that's also "asking for trouble", even though they're doing anything bad.

@New001 And as for whether it was shoving it... it was just a request to use word A instead of word B, and I never mentioned it outside of the nick, corrected people, etc. About as non-shovy as you can get without actually hiding it.

Sadly this is similar to adding your political affiliation in your nick. Some people will automatically dispise you without a second though.

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